A Little Bit About Nyatichi

An injustice I lived with for a long time was the weight of being misunderstood.

For years, my reflex was to overshare. I’d talk until I was blue in the face, desperate to "fix" the narrative and correct the record. I thought if I just provided enough context, people would finally see my heart. But as I’ve healed, I’ve realized a quiet, liberating truth: People will often hold onto a version of you that fits their own story, no matter how untrue it is.

Last year provided the ultimate test. I met the spouse of someone I once held very dear, only to be met with subtle disrespect and passive-aggression. It was jarring to be treated like a villain by a total stranger. I realized then that their impression of me wasn't built on my actions, but on the filtered, one-sided stories they’d been fed. My "friend" had shared the chapters that made them look like the hero and me the antagonist.

In the past, I would have fought back. I would have sent the "receipts." But instead, I felt a strange, cooling sense of peace. I knew that, in time, the truth of that person's character would reveal itself, and the spouse would eventually see why the distance between us exists today.

There is a quiet delight in watching people realize they were wrong about you from a distance. It’s not about spite; it’s about "personality privileges." If you choose to believe a lie about me, you lose the privilege of knowing the real me.

Even after the smear campaigns and the whispers meant to dim my light last year, all of which, I’m happy to say, failed to touch my destiny, I’ve realized I don't need the whole world to get it. I just want to be understood by the few. The ones who see past the noise.

Because at the end of the day, I’m just a girl trying to protect her peace and build something beautiful. So, for those of you who are here for the right reasons, I want to open the door a little wider.

Let’s sit down for a chat. Here is a little bit about who I actually am.

Interviewer: You mentioned that time has a way of revealing the truth. How has that perspective changed since you stepped into your newest role, motherhood?

You: Motherhood is the ultimate "truth-teller." When you’re holding a tiny human who depends on you for everything, you suddenly have zero tolerance for "noise." I used to worry about the smear campaigns or the passive-aggressive comments, but now? I look at my child and realize that my energy is a finite resource. Time passing didn't just reveal the truth about others; it revealed the truth about me. It showed me that I am far more resilient than the "villain" in someone else’s story. Being a mom has taught me that the only version of me that matters is the one that shows up for her.

Interviewer: Speaking of showing up, you’re also building a coaching practice. How does your experience of being misunderstood inform how you help your clients?

You: It’s actually my "superpower" as a coach. So many people come to me stuck in the same cycle I was in, trying to prove their worth to people who aren't even committed to liking them. I teach my clients how to reclaim those "personality privileges." We work on moving from "Why don't they understand me?" to "Why am I giving them access to me?" I’m not just coaching them on healing and self-mastery; I’m coaching them on how to be the CEO of their own peace.

Interviewer: And in the middle of all this, you’re a self-published author! That takes a massive amount of discipline. What can we expect from your writing?

You: Writing was where I went when I had no voice. Before I was healed enough to speak my truth, I wrote it. Being self-published is an extension of my independence, I’m not waiting for a "gatekeeper" to tell me my story is valid, just like I’m no longer waiting for an old friend to tell their spouse the "real" version of me. My books are for the people who are tired of being quiet. They are insightful, a little raw, and hopefully, the spark someone needs to start their own "healing era."

Interviewer: How do you balance it all? The baby, the books, the business, and the healing?

You: (Laughs) Some days, I don’t! There are definitely "messy cornrows and cold tea" days. But honestly, the balance comes from the "just a girl" philosophy. I’m allowed to be a powerhouse coach and an author, but I’m also allowed to just be a girl who needs a nap and a good cry. I’ve stopped trying to be "perfect" to spite my enemies. Now, I’m just being "real" to honor myself.

Interviewer: You’ve had quite a transformative year. Looking back at the start of 2025, you mentioned your social circle was looking... well, a bit like a ghost town. How does the "friendship landscape" look now?

You: (Laughs) Oh, "ghost town" is putting it politely! I started 2025 with exactly zero friends. My contact list was basically just me, my husband, and the automated "Your Amazon package is arriving" texts. For a while, I was my own best friend, my own hype-man, and honestly? I was a very demanding boss.

I think after years of being misunderstood, I just decided to go on a "social detox." I stopped auditioning for roles in people’s lives that were already miscasting me as the villain. I realized that if I was going to be the "bad guy" in their story anyway, I might as well enjoy the peace and quiet at home!

But as the year passed, something shifted. I ended 2025 with two, yes, exactly two, incredible, gold-standard friends. It turns out that when you stop oversharing and trying to "fix" everyone’s opinion of you, you finally have the space to hear the people who actually speak your language.

We’re a tiny circle, but we’re high-quality. No smear campaigns allowed, and the entry requirements include "not being a secret hater" and "actually liking me for the real me." I’m slowly opening up the gates to build a wider community now, but let’s just say the "personality privileges" are strictly by invitation only. If 2025 taught me anything, it’s that I’d rather have two ride-or-dies than a stadium full of people I have to keep a resume and a lawyer ready for!

Interviewer: While you were refining your inner circle, you were also incredibly busy on Amazon! Your catalog of wellness journals has jumped from 4 to a staggering 10. How does that feel?

You: I am so incredibly proud of that. Writing those journals was my way of taking the tools I use in my coaching practice and making them accessible to everyone. It’s funny, while people were busy talking about me, I was busy publishing. Every time someone buys a journal on Amazon, it’s a reminder that while some were trying to speak evil onto my destiny, I was busy writing a better one.

Interviewer: You’ve been very open about your past struggles with depression in your 20s. How has motherhood influenced your mental health journey?

You: This is probably my greatest victory. Having struggled with depression for the majority of my 20s, I was terrified of postpartum depression. But being a stay-at-home mom has been the most healing experience of my life. I haven’t just survived; I’ve thrived. There is a specific kind of peace that comes with being a stay-at-home mother, you’re in your own sanctuary, raising your future, and realized that the "dark clouds" of my 20s didn't follow me into this new chapter.

It turns out, when you remove the toxic people and the noise, your mind finally has the space to stay healthy.

Interviewer: You’ve talked about being a mom and a business owner, but you’ve also grown significantly as a wife. I heard you did something a bit sentimental last night?

You: (Smiles) I did. I actually pulled my wedding dress out of the back of the closet and tried it on. We got married on March 17th, 2019, and looking at myself in that mirror was… surreal.

In 2019, I was a bride with so much hope, but I was also still carrying the weight of wanting everyone to like me. I was still in the thick of that "oversharing" phase, trying to prove my worth to the world. Looking at myself in that same lace and silk last night, I realized I’m not the same woman who walked down the aisle.

Interviewer: In what way has your role as a wife evolved since that March morning?

You: I’ve learned that being a "good wife" isn't about being a perfect, quiet martyr who absorbs everyone else’s opinions. It’s about being a partner who is so secure in her own sovereignty that she brings peace into the home, not just performance.

My husband has been my rock through the smear campaigns and the friendship "ghost towns" of 2025. He saw the truth when others chose the lie. Growth as a wife, for me, has meant learning how to receive that kind of protection and love without feeling like I have to "earn" it by fixing the world's perception of me. Trying on the dress reminded me that while the dress still fits, the version of me that was afraid of being misunderstood is gone. I’ve grown into the woman he always knew I was.

Interviewer: You just celebrated your 34th birthday in December. Between the amazing gift from your husband and where you are in life, what was the standout realization of turning another year older?

You: My husband truly outdid himself with my gift, which was lovely, but the real gift was the feeling of sovereignty. At 34, I have finally mastered my autonomy. I don't look for external validation anymore. I don’t check the "weather" of other people’s opinions to decide how I’m going to feel. I am the architect of my own life, the author of my own books, and the mother of my own beautiful child.

Interviewer: To wrap things up, what is one message you want to leave with the people who are just now getting to know the real you?

You: That the truth doesn't shout; it just stays put. If you’re being misunderstood right now, stop trying to correct the record. Build your business, love your babies, write your books, and let time do the talking for you. The people who belong in your life will find their way to your table, and the food will taste so much better because there’s no longer any poison in the room.